The word fetish derives from 15th century Portuguese feitiço, which meant charm or spell. A fetish is an object believed to have supernatural powers, or in particular, a man-made object that has power over others. Essentially, fetishism is the attribution of inherent value or powers to an object. The terms “erotic fetish” and “sexual fetish” were first introduced by the French psychologist Alfred Binet.
Today a “fetish” is an object, non-reproductive body part or action whose presence or existence causes excitement and/or arousal in an individual. An object might be latex or heels, a non-sexual body part could be legs or feet and tickling or smoking are examples of actions.
“Fetish” is also used as an adjective that relates to anything connected to the world of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadomasochism) such as fetish wear or fetish clubs, BDSM fetish sex toys.
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I even used to get a thrill from a bit of light ‘sploshing’. But, ever since I’ve turned vegan, the thought of animal products coming into contact with my naked skin is the very opposite of orgasmic. Vegan ‘sploshing’ could be a viable prospect one day, I hope. I must confess that it doesn’t feature prominently on my ‘bucket list’ of fantasies that I want to translate into reality, though.
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The MAZE collection from Bijoux indiscrets allows me to be just that.
“Exciting paths that unveil secret directions with one true end: finding your true self” the packaging reads.
This philosophy certainly conforms with my current spiritual journey. I’m surrendering to the universe and seeing where it chooses to take me. It will lead me, hopefully, into the arms of someone who is as blissed-out and kinky as I am.
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I was in a terrible mood when I tried Lea by Feelz Toys for the first time. I had just been woken up in the early hours of the morning by my flatmate / frenemy who was making a great deal of unnecessary noise. It was clear that he didn’t give two hoots about whether I got enough sleep or not. His coughing, door slamming and stomping around made it clear that we are going through the equivalent of a platonic separation. Our situation is reminiscent of a film that I remember seeing. ‘The Breakup (2006)’ starring Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn tells the story of a couple trying to go their separate ways.
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For me, veganism is not just about healthy eating. It is a lifestyle. There is nothing I would love more than to meet a hot vegan guy. They are, however, few and far between and seemingly hard to track down. As a task, it resembles trying to source a good avocado in winter. I think culinary compatibility is incredibly important when choosing a viable partner. At this point, I don’t think I could imagine living with someone who wanted to have meat in the refrigerator, for example.
I have always envied women who are able to walk easily and elegantly in high heels without falling over. Sadly, I do not have as much luck as they do. It is very difficult for me to find shoes that combine sex appeal with comfort. The few times that I have gone out wearing high heels have ended up the same way and bruises are something that are never thought of as sexy. Because of my clumsiness, I only wear heels for photo sessions and sex sessions.
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“It’s not a glamorous look”, “you’ve totally lost your sex appeal” or “how disgusting!” These are just some of the comments I received after publishing photos of my hairy armpits on social media. Of course, there were others that were more positive.
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Downblouse is a variety of sexual fetishism or voyeurism. It’s based on the opportunity, provided by some types of women’s clothing, for men to peer down and enjoy watching their breasts unobtrusively. It might take the form of making unauthorised digital photographs down the open top of a female’s dress, blouse or other garment. The value of ‘downblousing’ imagery is increased, from the collector’s perspective, when those pictures of breasts or cleavages are obtained thanks to random chance.
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I love latex and not just as something to wear. I don’t just like it for its appearance but also for its aroma, the sounds it makes when you move in it and the subculture that surrounds it. When I’m at a fetish party and I have the opportunity to wear it in public, with other fetishists, I feel a unique excitement. It’s a sensation unmatched by any other, almost a latexstasy.
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My soles hare the most sensitive part of my feet by far. They also represent the area that receives the most attention from my foot fans. If I were to accept each and every one of their offers to lick and suck my soles I know for certain that when I tried to stand up, the volume of saliva would send me sliding across the floor.
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