How Sexting Can Build Your Confidence
There are certain facts of life that are known to be true. Fact, everyone texts. Fun fact, most women sext. Little known fact, […]
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Domination
In BDSM, a top or dominant is the partner in a BDSM relationship or scene who takes the active or controlling role over that of the bottom or submissive partner.
Domination means being able to extract excitement from the pleasure you give to a submissive by every word you speak and every gesture you make no matter how trivial. That enjoyment only increases if a submissive offers unqualified and quantifiable acts of worship whenever ordered to do so.
There are three variables at work in a dominant’s connection to their submissive and the formers fetishistic pleasure relies upon each of them being fulfilled to the letter:
Firstly, for dominants continual, high-quality, worship from a submissive represents a depth of adoration from another individual that simply cannot be found anywhere else.
Secondly, in setting tasks and organising duties for an eager submissive outside of the controlling environment of their BDSM relationship, the dominant understands that the submissive derives nothing but pure fetishistic pleasure themselves from the distance application of their adoration.
Lastly, dominants have the final word when it comes to giving rewards to obedient submissives or administering punishments to rebellious ones and this system has a fetishistic significance all of its own.
Online BDSM Dating
It seemed clear that only way to overcome this rejection was to try BDSM dating only and connect with someone based on sexual tastes instead. A place where there would be no moral judgement or unrealistic expectations. He did just that and he had to think of a kinky nickname that reflected his dominant desires. The irony was, that he actually had no experience apart from watching kinky videos and listening to my stories.
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Vegan Leather Fetish – Enter the MAZE by Bijoux indiscrets
The MAZE Collection – Vegan Leather
As soon as I saw the appropriately titled, MAZE collection from Bijoux Indiscrets, I knew that I needed to find my own path into it. I did not care about forgetting the way I went in, taking a wrong turn or, indeed, solving the puzzle. I just felt the need to get lost in a confounding, and thrilling, realm of fetish fantasy.
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Unboxing The New Erotic Accessories from Bijoux Indiscrets
When I saw the hip chains from the new collection by Bijoux Indiscrets, I knew that they would be ideal for this type of erotic game. There is also something very alluring about being naked except for a chain (or two). Feeling something cold and metallic draped against your skin that moves against you with each step you take is incredibly arousing. It’s like ‘I’m dressed but naked’. The hip chains highlight the curve and form of your figure even more than being naked does.
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The Dangers of Cybersex
When it comes to sex in the real world, there are always condoms. But, how can we protect ourselves during a cybersex session? It’s quite true that cybersex doesn’t expose you to the risk of sexually transmitted infections, but there are specific dangers inherent. The most obvious one is that our ‘private’ chat is nothing of the kind.
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Ode to the Original Mr Grey
Ode to the Original Mr Grey I’ve always believed that the success of the Fifty Shades of Grey books can be attributed to
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CFNM vs CMNF (Femdom)
When I came across the acronym CFNM on Twitter recently associated with Femdom (Female Domination), I was instantly curious to find out what
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Fifty Shades of Grey: You’ve read the book, seen the trailer, now what?
Fifty Shades of Grey is trending again and it feels as though it never went away. The truth is, it’s always there now,
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Strap-on Sex
I could never truly appreciate how much physical effort a man puts in to having sex until I had experienced strap-on sex. I
Cyberslave: My New Short Film
Cyberslave is a short film that tells the story of a struggling dominatrix and her relationship with Slave X. It explores the dynamics
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The Power of Orgasm Denial
Orgasm denial is the best way to deal with rebellious slaves. For those who want to take denial beyond willpower alone, a chastity
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A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM
Introducing a little BDSM into your relationship can be a really great way to intensify things, learn your limits and become closer to
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My Slave’s Make-up Fetish
My slave likes to watch me on Skype as I go through the ritual of applying my make-up. It is a strange and exciting
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50 shades of Venus
In case you hadn’t realised, Planet Venus is back. It may seem perverse for me to be away from my regular writing responsibilities
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Feminism Vs Femdom
Feminism has got a bad name over the years for a variety of reasons. Mostly, in our hypersexual culture of eroticised imagery, it
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BDSM for Beginners – Terminology
BDSM is a perfect festive treat for the Christmas holidays. That’s fine if you know what you’re doing. You might be new to
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The Myth of Financial Domination
In BDSM, financial domination is a situation where a female dominant has complete control over the disposable income of Her submissive slave. For
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Black Lace Blindfold
Many fetishists think that lace blindfolds are a bit pointless. After all, a blindfold should restrict vision and deprive the wearer of vital
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Exploring Hood Fetish
A hood can be worn and exploited by both dominants and submissives. I’d wanted to explore the idea of a hood fetish photo-set
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Suspension
Suspension bondage appeals to fetishists because it makes the person being suspended seem more vulnerable if they are unable and unwilling to escape
Venus in Furs – My Favourite Book
Venus in Furs by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch is my favourite book. An influential lover gave it to me as an instruction manual, to
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My First Book: Love Me Like You Hate Me – Venus O’Hara
In this era of 24/7 social networking, anyone can call themselves a writer because their words can be published online whenever they feel
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Domination
In BDSM, a top or dominant is the partner in a BDSM relationship or in a BDSM scene who takes the active or
Love Me Like You Hate Me – Teaser
I recently made my acting debut in the acclaimed short film “Love Me Like You Hate Me”, written and directed by Erika Lust,
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No Pain, No Gain (BDSM)
Pain has always been a part of accepted behaviour in conventional sexual relationships. The loss of control that defines the act itself anticipates
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